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Much of society seems to be built on a
scarcity mentality. It's a mentality that tells people that there is a lack in life
that opportunities are few and far between. This is, of course, useful for
Marketing and Advertisers because if people believe that there is a lack, then
you can get them to buy stuff; thus, the economy and society can continue to
thrive and prosper by reinforcing a scarcity mentality in people.
The scarcity mentality can be quite painful for the individual and create a lot of unnecessary fear, anxiety and desperation. An abundance mentality, on the other hand, tells you that there are always new chances and opportunities. This relieves much of the pressure you may feel if you have a scarcity mentality that makes you think that you've only got one shot right now. Or it makes you feel like an utter failure just because you stumbled and things didn’t work out. An abundance mentality can help you improve your performance since with it, you’re creating a lot less pressure and anxieties within your own mind.
Here are a few tips to create and reinforce your own abundance mentality.
Step 1
Look for the symptoms of a scarcity
mentality. If you have a scarcity mentality then you will probably take things too seriously.
You may think to yourself: “If I fail, the sky will fall”. It won’t, though,
and you know that and need to remind yourself. But you think it will, you
become overly nervous and POOF! you have invited that failure because your
negativity becomes an obstacle on your path to success. If it’s a game, then
you may fumble with the ball. If it’s an exam, then you may not have been able
to sleep and will perform poorly on the test. If it’s a date, you may come over
as too needy and nervous and not as your usual, more relaxed self. Regain your
empowerment by remembering all the opportunities you have been afforded and
know that it is all a flow that will always continue.
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Step 2
Focus on the abundance, not on the lack. What
you focus on, you will see in your world. Since you can’t take in everything
around you, your reticular activation system – your focus system in the mind –
will bring into focus what you focus your thoughts on.
This will allow you to see the abundance in your world that you may be missing right now. If you, for instance, have a lack of money, then don’t focus on your lack. Focus and think about the abundance of possibilities in the world to make money. Soon ideas and opportunities to make that happen will start to “pop up” in your world. It’s almost a bit freaky how things that hold solutions for you – perhaps books or acquaintances – that have been there in the background for quite a while just one day suddenly jump out at you.
Step 3
Appreciate. One quick way to revert from
the pretty normal habit of thinking about what you don’t have is simply to
appreciate. Appreciate your food, life, your roof, your friends and family and
so on. This can not only turn a sour mood into a more positive one within
minutes, but it can also help you notice opportunities you have missed or
forgotten about. And it'll create a more open vibe within you, a vibe that makes
it easier to focus on the abundance. So, make a habit of appreciating something
in your life for a few minutes each day.
Step 4
Get organized.
When you don't feel abundant or good about yourself or life in general, that
can mean you are simply not in order. Have your home clean, your clothes
folded, your digital files in place, and your finances
organized. Have some order and discipline, and you'll start seeing results.
Step 5
Get an abundance vibe from other people. Since
you get a scarcity mentality from, say, advertising and media, then you can
change your input to change your mentality. Cut down on watching the news.
Record your favourite shows and skip the commercials. Or just cut down on your
TV and media consumption, period.
Replace the scarcity vibe you get from that input. How do you do that? “Hang out” with people that have an abundance mentality. Read, listen to and watch personal development material. Besides reading your favourite personal development blogs, read success stories in books and magazines. Have a positive attitude to the abundance and success of your friends, family and co-workers. Hang out with people in real life who have more of an abundance mentality and less of a scarcity mentality. Be selective with what you put into your mind. Create your own environment of abundance.
Replace the scarcity vibe you get from that input. How do you do that? “Hang out” with people that have an abundance mentality. Read, listen to and watch personal development material. Besides reading your favourite personal development blogs, read success stories in books and magazines. Have a positive attitude to the abundance and success of your friends, family and co-workers. Hang out with people in real life who have more of an abundance mentality and less of a scarcity mentality. Be selective with what you put into your mind. Create your own environment of abundance.
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Step 6
Share the wealth. One very good way to
acknowledge how much you have is to share it. Do you feel like you're not
making enough money? Give some away. Not enough love? Give some away. Not
enough validation, appreciation, recognition? Give it all away. It's hard for
something to feel scarce when you're giving it away.
Step 7
Create win-win situations. People with
a scarcity mentality tend to see every relationship is win-lose, as in:
"It's either you or me, buddy, and I want it to be me." People with
an abundance mentality, on the other hand, try to create mutually beneficial
relationships in which both parties can win.[1] Instead
of winning an argument, for example, try to reach a
consensus that you both can be happy with. Instead of
competing, collaborate.
Step 8
Remind
yourself. It’s very easy to slip back into your old thought
patterns. You just forget about what you should be thinking about. A useful
tool to keep yourself from slipping is to use external reminders. You can, for
example, use written notes posted at places you can’t avoid seeing several
times each day – your workspace, fridge and mirrors – or put a bracelet on your
wrist. Seeing words or quotes that remind you of your new abundance mentality
can help your mind snap back into the right headspace once again.
Step 9
When you face your greatest loss, it may contain
your greatest opportunity. If you lose your job and are close to losing
your housing, you could sell off anything you don't like, want or immediately
need to cut back on your physical possessions. That means less to move, so
starting over might as well be where you always wanted to live. You have to
find a way to make a living, so it might as well be entry level in whatever you
always wanted to do instead of just looking for a job, any job. Shoot high.
Those crises are the point in life where everything that held you back can be
left behind and moving toward something better than you've ever had will make
any sacrifices meaningful. It's very different being frugal and living small
because you're just starting out or living a reduced lifestyle viewed as a
failure. Use the chance to give yourself something that money can't buy, like
time and freedom.
TIPS
- When the feeling of scarcity is strong, remember previous times when you had an abundance. Realize that you can recreate similar circumstances once again.
- Learn to face the reality of living within your means. Many people have the habit of copying and envying others with greater means. Doing so can ruin your day or your life. It's therefore important to live within your resources while looking for ways to improve them. You will be free from stress and undue competition without any satisfaction.
- A real-world example of the abundance mentality is the "copyleft" movement, which focuses on loosening the restrictions of traditional copyrights.[2] More and more people are licensing their work with GFDL, Creative Commons, or even releasing it into the public domain. For example, Leo Babauta, founder of the popular Zen Habits blog, decided to release all of his content into the public domain.[3] Many programmers share software and programs freely in the spirit of open source.[4]
WARNINGS
- Don't get so carried away with an abundance mentality that you become a people pleaser who lets people take advantage of your generosity. Remember to surround yourself with people who also have an abundance mentality, who give as much as they take, or else "parasites" will drain you and eventually leave you with a scarcity mentality.
- Be sure also to not reach a point where you find yourself coasting through life with no goal or purpose for yourself. Remember to "seize the day".
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