Releasing Toxic People From Your Life

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I found this article very interesting.  I know for myself I have met people who were only in my life for a fleeting moment and in that moment they had planted a seed in my mind, which germinated and grew, changing my life’s path in the perfect direction I needed to go.

I have a girlfriend who I have known for 35 years.  We partied together when we were young.  Then I moved to another city and we lost contact.  We were reconnected quite my accident  (or should I say intentionally by the Universe) 7 years ago by her niece who remembered me even though she was only 10 when she met me only about twice in her life.  In the last 4 years we are now heading in the same path.  Creating an online business in the alternative wellness industry.  So now we support each in our businesses.

There have been other friends who now I no longer connect with and had to let go.

Now I am surrounded by people who lift me, inspire me, support me in my dreams and goals. I have made new friends who have the same belief's as me, old friends who accept me as I am and new mentors who guide and direct me.

May you be as blessed.

Isabella Manetti

Article source: Rachel Brathen

Throughout our lives we meet many, many people, some crossing our paths just once and some coming into our worlds to stay. The people we surround ourselves with affect how we feel, how we act and the way we see the world. We absorb the energy of others. The people we keep close influence us immensely and it’s absolutely crucial to our wellbeing that we choose these people wisely! Just because you have known someone forever doesn’t mean you need to keep holding on to an old idea of a relationship. Fact of the matter is as human beings we constantly evolve, we constantly change, and to keep the flow of things going we sometimes need to let people go as part of that change. But how do you know which people to hold on to, and which people it’s time to let go of? And how do you actually let go of someone that’s been in your life for a long time?

Identify how the people in your surroundings make you feel. You know you have a valuable person in your life if they make you feel good. It’s very simple. They give you energy, lift you up, inspire you to to great things. This person will be easy to spend time with and even though you’ll have your ups and downs (as with all things) the general feeling of the relationship is effortless. Hold on to these people! Don’t take them for granted. Be grateful, because true connection is not the easiest thing to find.

What if you have a person in your life that makes you feel the opposite of what’s described above? I like to call them energy thieves – people that instead of lifting you up, bring you down. People that judge you or make you feel small. He or she might be very negative most of the time, complain a lot or gossip and make mean remarks about others. This person is most likely very caught up in ego and feeds of drama of other people. If someone spends a lot of time talking trash to you about others, what’s stopping them from talking the same way to others about you? How do you feel after spending time with this person? This is the first indication that it might be time to let go – if a person makes you feel unworthy or insecure it’s not someone you want to hold on to for too long.

If you find yourself surrounded by energy thieves all around, you need to take a moment and check in with your heart. Why are you attracting these people into your life right now? There is something you are telling yourself, a vibration you are giving out that brings these people to you. Are you being nice to yourself? Are you giving yourself enough love? Or are you making yourself the victim? This is the first thing you need to change: how you treat yourself. Make sure you take care of your soul in all ways, and that means knowing you deserve good people in your life. Know that no one can take your power away from you unless you allow them to. Check in with how you are feeling on a deep level, and why it is that you are giving people with a toxic vibe attention right now. Something is lacking. Find out what, and start giving yourself the love you need from within.

Now, the energy thieves. The most important thing to remember here is that there is love inside this other person, too. No one will ever consciously put another person down unless they are suffering inside. What we feel we reflect outward – a person who makes others feel small does so because he or she feels small. It’s simple, and it’s a way of coping. If anything, these people need love and lots of it. However: being insecure and having issues with your self esteem is no excuse for treating others like crap, and you do not have to put up with people treating you that way either! My suggestion is try to let go without drama. You don’t have to invite your ego to release a toxic person from your life. There doesn’t have to be a fight, or mean comments, or an “I’m done with you” type of feeling. While verbalizing what you feel so you can let go of the emotion is good, you don’t have to inflict pain in others to release them. If possible, let them out of your life subtly, with ease. Perhaps the only one holding on is you? Some relationships don’t need a big bang ending, they have just served their purpose and what’s left can slip quietly out the door.

Other relationships are harder to let go of, if the person you need a break from is someone you see on a very regular basis or if they have been in your life for a long time. Can you sit down with them and explain how you feel without creating drama? Honesty is a magical thing. Sometimes all that’s needed is a little bit of truth, even if it might hurt at first. Be honest with how you are feeling and let the person know you need to step away. Don’t point fingers, or judge, or hurt, simply tell them for your own wellbeing you need to take a break. If the other person gets upset and starts throwing drama your way… Know that it’s never really about you. My favorite saying is “What other people think of me is none of my business” and it’s so true! Your business is you, nothing else. If other people don’t like who you are, or the choices you make? Who cares! When you focus on surrounding yourself with loving people, the love you have within will blossom and extend to others too. When you see them in the future, smile, say hello, and walk on. Remind yourself that life is far too valuable to get caught up in negativity. Focus on the people that make you happy! By doing so you will attract more happy people into your life. The law of attraction is a powerful thing… Which is why it’s so important to choose your close ones wisely. Know that life will take you where you need to be, with the people you need to be with. And when it’s time to let go? Don’t hold on. Clear out the old to make space for the new. The space that’s left with this person out of your life will soon be filled by a person who deserves your love. Or can you learn to love yourself so much that the space will never be empty? I think if anything, that’s why we are here. To learn, and to love.